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Filters and the truth

We all have big mouths and let slip far more than we should from the depths of our imperfections. Wouldn’t it be great if we all had enough filters in place though?

No. 

The problem is not lack of filters. The more we focus on filters, the less we have to face the truth about who we really are and what we’re capable of.

I used to be one of those extroverts who scored extremely high on extroversion. Speaking my mind and being a straight shooter made me feel honest. 

But it’s not, and it’s never been, about being honest. It’s about being good. 

Whether or not you have filters, what comes out of your mouth reflects what your soul is filled with. 

I learned some valuable lessons that eventually changed me from inside out – all thanks to not having filters. Dealing will the consequences of my unfiltered behavior helped me face myself as I really was.

Surprisingly I also learned how to filter a few things out until those things were resolved in me. 

Ultimately filters should only be there to assist us in our growth. 

If we’re using filters to deliberately hide who we are without making a genuine effort to change, then we are denying ourselves the opportunity to become better. 

Let it out and take the blow. Or keep it in and deal with it. 

Either way, facing the truth about ourselves is an edifying process that, if focused on forgiveness and love, brings us unprecedented growth and peace of mind.

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Forgiving sets YOU free

Forgiving is not just about doing good to others, it is also about setting ourselves free from the very strong and very unhealthy bond that resentment creates.

It is easier to visualize this in a specific context from real life: You know “Anna”, that friend of yours that you don’t forgive for something she’s done that hurt you? By not forgiving Anna, you actually empower her to hold you hostage to that hurt for much, much longer.

It is so much healthier to forgive Anna: you don’t even need to tell her you’ve forgiven her or bring her back into your life.

Forgiveness is all about conscious actions and quickly becomes a very constructive attitude towards life. Once you’ve forgiven Anna, you will feel progressively more peaceful and empowered to manage your relationships better.

Forgiving her makes your life easier because you won’t have to deal with those negative emotions that might otherwise make you bitter. We all know how negativity works.

Another very important thing: forgiveness is not just for people that you think are ‘good’ or ‘deserving’ of forgiveness. It is for everyone, or else it embeds judgment and becomes tyrannical. But I’ll explore this very interesting topic further in my next posting.

 

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Mocking hurts. Loving empowers.

Do you think you are justified to mock people that you, or the public opinion, consider “bad”? Think again. There is certainly no fault in being cautious or staying well-informed about other people’s actions and behavior that might be harmful to others, but mocking them definitely doesn’t put you in a much better position than those “bad” people that you are aiming at:

Psalm 1: “Blessed is the one who does not walk in step with the wicked or stand in the way that sinners take or sit in the company of mockers, 2 but whose delight is in the law of the LORD, and who meditates on his law day and night. “

The truth is that it feels so infinitely better to not mock anyone. To evoke compassion for each and every person around us. And to forgive them. Yes, we can still dislike people’s actions, but it is extremely important to save our energy and invest it in forgiveness. 

I find it increasingly difficult to hear mockery of any type. The reason why is because I think we’re all susceptible to it – and it genuinely hurts both to be the one mocking and the one being mocked. It’s a way of inflicting pain in one another that we don’t fully acknowledge until we see concrete damage done. 

I don’t wish to hurt anyone, even though I realize I still do even without wanting to. And I don’t wish to be hurt either, even though I am not immune to it. So how do I stop that? Simple: by stopping the vicious cycle, by not sitting in the company of mockerers. 

Let’s not be the ones starting the mockery. And let’s not be the ones passing it on. Infuse your intellect with love and you’ll see how much easier it becomes.

Corinthians 1 13-1: “If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal.”