Did you take more than you could handle?

Feeling hurt can become a handicap and, sometimes, it gives us the impression that we’re all alone hurting in the world. But we’re not. Often times there’s so much worse than our hurt going on in the world.

Yet it is necessary to let the hurt take its course. I think we’re becoming afraid of pain – and I have to admit I am going through that at this very moment, just because the pain is greater than expected and I am typically very balanced and handle emotions exceedingly well.

But pain is usually a good moment to connect with God and to completely surrender to his Grace.


I think my struggle is to understand why exactly I am hurting. And suddenly the thought of being loved by God is not enough. It’s scary. My self-love actually falters me!

So far the lesson I am learning from this is that I might have just taken far more than I could handle. I have gotten much better at evaluating my limits, but there’s clearly still work to do. I felt pushed in both situations to make a decision I had already considered, but didn’t think I should – or could make. The ‘push’, I assume, came from the Holy Spirit.

We all need to learn when to draw the line before things get much worse.

It’s all about balance.

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Self-love and the company we keep


One direct result of reconnecting with God is that we find ourselves no longer feeling comfortable in the company of people that we previously considered friends. This is largely due to self-love and the awareness that the company we keep affects us.

This could mean just keeping a healthy distance from a few friends. Or letting go completely of some of them. But, at times, we aren’t able to keep any friends at all.

I remember when I reached this point a few months after my conversion. There were people I was friends with because we connected negatively – and letting them go was also a way of letting that side of me go.

Letting go of friends was difficult and made me feel isolated. But those ‘break ups’ were essential to make me see who I was, who I didn’t want to be and who I could be. A threefold process that could never take place without God’s guidance.

This process has also taught me how to identify people who I shouldn’t let into my life. A few months ago, I met a young woman who seemed very balanced at first, but who turned out to be conflictive, judgmental, resentful and needy.

I used to be just like her. It was painful to be around her. So I let her go.

Shortly after I met her, I became friends with another young woman who is very spiritual, mindful and peaceful. She is less assertive than I am and we don’t share the same beliefs, but there is definitely a ‘soul synchronicity’. Our friendship does us good and we don’t feed any type of conflict.

If you’re reading this and feeling really uncomfortable about your friendships, trust me: wherever conflict is the fuel, there is no growth or peace of mind.

The old saying is true: it’s best to be alone than in bad company. So let go of bad connections and embrace opportunities to build good ones!

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Unconditional love

God is the only one capable of unconditional love. And it’s wonderful to know that we are loved unconditionally by him. That knowledge is the very foundation of self-love.