If you want to be good you must set boundaries

A lot of us believe that being good entails doing what others ask. Always being there. Always giving. Always abiding. 

But that’s not really being good. That’s being pathologically good. And that is not good.

Being genuinely good means you know when to set boundaries because going beyond them will hurt more than do good. 

Being truthfully good means you acknowledge your limits and face the fact that saying “no” can lead to growth, especially where saying “yes” would shelter others from taking full responsibility for themselves.

Anything we do that doesn’t come from the heart is false and leads us to an unhealthy path of self-glorification.

Being good is about avoiding excesses, being true to the heart and finding balance:

Let what you say be simply ‘Yes’ or ‘No’; anything more than this comes from evil. — Matthew 5:37

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The relevance of sharing

The most important life experience I’ve ever had is also the one that I share the least: my conversion. Why? Because the relevance of sharing is diluted in our times in a vast sea of superficial and attention seeking sharing. Nonetheless, it does seem that meaningful sharing should also happen less frequently. And that explains the 3-year gap between my last post here and this one.